In a heartfelt message this Valentine’s Day, the Chairperson of the Kenya National Association of Private Colleges (KENAPCO), Elvis Wasike, has called on both parents and individuals to be more aware of the emotional needs of children and the long-term impacts of unmet emotional needs in adulthood. He also highlighted the significance of self-awareness and emotional healing in achieving mental well-being, particularly in the context of Valentine's Day.
Wasike, an avid reader and coach, reflected on insights gained from coaching training and case studies, emphasizing that people who were not loved enough as children often face challenges in their adult relationships. According to Wasike, these individuals might find themselves seeking love in unhealthy places or struggling to love others, particularly if they had experienced abusive or absent parental figures. He shared that these emotional gaps can lead to complicated emotional behaviors, including difficulty with trust and relationship patterns, and even contribute to conditions like borderline personality disorder.
"The key to emotional healing is self-awareness," said Wasike. "As individuals, we must recognize the impact of our early childhood experiences on our adult lives. Healing the inner child is a crucial step towards living a fulfilling life. It’s okay to seek help and work on your emotional health. Therapy and coaching can guide you in this process.”
Wasike urged parents to be nurturing and emotionally available to their children, reinforcing the importance of love, attention, and communication. He encouraged parents to give their children a strong emotional foundation that will help them thrive as adults. “Give your kids plenty of love, listen to them, laugh together, and build lasting memories. When children feel emotionally secure, they’re less likely to seek affirmation in harmful ways in adulthood,” he added.
The Chairperson also took this opportunity to remind everyone to be mindful of their emotional bank account—an analogy for emotional health—and to ask themselves whether they are genuinely in love or simply filling a void left from their past. "Valentine's Day should not just be about grand gestures or seeking love outside, but about nurturing love within yourself and with those you cherish every day."
Wasike concluded his message with an emphasis on the importance of daily care and emotional investment. "It’s not about making someone feel special on just one day, but consistently making them feel valued and important every day. Valentine’s Day is a reminder, but true love and care go beyond this single day."
In his closing remarks, Wasike encouraged individuals to work on themselves and seek support when needed. "You can’t send the entire world to a therapist to feel better, but you can begin your healing journey today, and that’s where your transformation begins."
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