This Is Why Men Treat Women in Their Pregnancy With Contempt -Benjamin Zulu
‘I don’t understand why men treat women in their pregnancy with contempt. I have a friend, she is in her last days of pregnancy. During her first trimester with the change of hormones as it often happens she caught a Urinary Tract Infection. The infection became persistent and the antibiotic she was using caused a small growth.
The growth gives some smell and that’s what she’s currently dealing with. The baby-daddy took off with insults that she smelt like shit.
The lady is independent. She doesn’t mind his moving out she can sort herself financially. Can men be educated that infection in pregnancy is common and they should support their wives in seeking medical treatment?’
The question here is not the medical challenges the lady went through but the kind of union she had put herself into. A responsible husband will journey with his wife through anything because they’re doing life together. But I notice you’ve used the terms baby daddy and ‘wives’ in your write up, a fatal mix up. You must never confuse a baby daddy with a husband. A babydaddy- babymama relationship is sexual and platonic. It’s not based on covenant but convenience. They don’t promise to stay through anything. In most cases there’s no commitment.
In your case a lady went out in the streets and dragged a fellow into her house to have a baby with him. What did she expect from such a man? When you make a bed kindly lie in it quietly and stop complaining about things you never bargained for.
A husband-wife relationship, on the other hand, is a solemn thing. Those vows people say mean something even if some people later violate them. People violate even traffic rules but that doesn’t mean traffic rules don’t bring order. Violators soon or later get caught and pay the price, whether they flaunted traffic rules or marital vows.
That marriage ceremony becomes a fence around the marriage. To get out of that marriage you have to jump that fence and you’re reminded that you’re crossing the lines. But in a cohabiting situation where are the lines? Where’s the fence? The man can simply wake up and leave, like this one did.
Personally I don’t understand any woman who knowingly puts herself in a babydaddy-babymama situation. I cannot listen to her complaints about the behaviour of the man because she chose that situation herself. It’s the nature of thieves to steal. If you house one in your house and he steals what right do you have to cry foul?
There’s no shortcut to healthy relationships. When you seek a husband you’re thinking long term and you’re more ready to scrutinise them thoroughly. When it’s a baby daddy there’s no such standards. People just start having sex and conceiving. Behaving casual with what God intended to be sacred. There are always consequences to such an attitude and women usually bear the brunt of it.
What about a husband who also becomes a babydaddy, you ask? He cannot be both to the same woman. To the wife he’s under covenant which he violated to become a baby daddy to another. Some try to sanitise this second relationship by marrying the woman as a second wife but the foundation of their union is and will always infidelity and betrayal.
There’s a price for infidelity however rampant it may seem, and it will catch up with
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