Do not mistake someone who treats you right for someone who is in love with you- Life Coach Benjamin Zulu
Do not mistake someone who treats you right for someone who is in love with you. There are people who can give you attention without feeling anything about you and if you’re at a vulnerable place you can misinterpret it.
Or you may be the type of people who are always giving and you’ve never been the recipient so when you meet another giver you don’t know how to respond.
I’ve met people who founded their marriage on this phenomenon or they got into flings and affairs and it was a costly mistake. Because they were used to people only taking from them they were so overwhelmed to be attended to that they married the first person who gave them that feeling. They were not used to people being just there for them without demands.
The problem is that such a person may not have any further intentions with you except their nice personality and the friendship chemistry you have. If you introduce romance into it they may play along but you’ll ultimately be disappointed.
They were not mentally and energetically prepared to plunge that deep with you. And they may not tell you that either because they’re also unsure about the whole situation or they fear hurting you with the truth.
Solution? Learn to restrain yourself and to enjoy good company without your feelings getting in the way. Let the way the person makes you feel only serve as a confirmation that givers like yourself exist. And so you get motivated to seek your partner among them with more courage.
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