Getting back with your ex means you’ve not grown- Benjamin Zulu
Getting back with your ex means you’ve not grown. You’re still the same person you were and you’re still stuck where they left you. Otherwise if you had evolved you’d find even the thought itself repugnant.
And if you do it repeatedly it means you’re caught up in an addictive orbit with them. Perhaps you use the relationship to fill a void within you that you’ve failed to address and heal.
You started dating them at a very lonely or painful time in your life and you fear falling back there when they’re not in your life. Instead of addressing the uncomfortable feelings you escaped into a relationship. The relationship acts like a drug and dropping it brings the same cravings and compulsions a drug would.
The solution is the same as if you were trying to get off a drug: get addiction treatment and put yourself on rehabilitation program. Cut contact and manage triggers, cure the need or the void within, replace the ‘high’ with a healthy form of fulfilment, find alternative connections and build a new rhythm into your life.
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