Strategies To Help You Solve YOUR Marital Challenges
Many good marriages slip into crisis because we don’t or won’t believe how much work it takes to keep relationships healthy and thriving. It’s just like when you stop investing in the house you are living in. It will easily fall into disrepair. Think back to when you first started to pursue your wife. It required commitment, hard work, and imagination. If winning her required that back then, why does it surprise us when neglect creates marriage problems after we walk down the aisle? She wouldn’t have married you if you took her for granted. Why risk everything now?
Surround yourselves with people in healthy relationships :
Some of those negative patterns may have involved friends. Surround yourself with people who value marriage and where there’s widespread support for making yours work.
Choose to love: Love may have come easy when it was brand new. Love is as much a choice as it is an emotion. Choice is an act of maturity and it has a much better track record than emotion left to make its way on its own.
Act as if your spouse’s happiness is more important than your own:
Putting our spouse first nurtures trust, gratitude, generosity, and affection. It can also lead to physical intimacy.
Put the relationship ahead of everything: including your children.
It’s unfortunate, but time has a way of eating away at our priorities. “You’re the most important thing in my life” gives way to “my work… the family business…the children… my aging parents… even movies …” Marriages don’t work well when our partner plays second fiddle to anything – even the children. It’s a fact – the happiest kids are those with parents who love one-another best.
Start over from scratch:
Ask her out. Make sure you remember why you did the first time and build from there. When did you last talk for hours, hold hands, or give her a kiss when she wasn’t expecting it?. Revive you romance and enjoy life together.
Stop taking one-another for granted:
Say “thank you” for that cup of soya, uji etc. Celebrate obscure anniversaries. Tell her how much it means to you that she cooks a great meal – or vice versa. Appreciate her natural hair. Ask her out. Pay attention to the little things and act like someone who values the relationship.
Pray for your spouse:
Chances are you launched your marriage with both promises and prayers. Pray for your spouse, and ask for guidance as you pledge to make the kind of effort that simply won’t float without turning to God every day. God will fill you with His Spirit and the devil will never have a chance to attack your marriage. Commit your spouse to God every morning and evening. Pray for your family and for your children. Surrender your heart to God and trust in God with your heart, soul and body. God is faithful and He will keep you safe and secure. For those who are not yet married you need to pray four times a day before you give your heart to a man. In God we trust.
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