4 Reasons Why They Want The Relationship To Be A Secret
Now let me clarify some issues before I continue.
Yes, your Relationship is not public business, you can be in a Relationship and your entire 5000 Facebook friends are not aware, they don’t need to be.
You can be engaged with someone for two years and you never go to the church to announce it so everyone knows or come to social media to show it off for the likes, you could chose to wait till your Wedding is Close and your Wedding Card is out.
If that’s your style, nothing wrong there.
In fact I recommend that style.
But there are People that Should and Must be aware immediately you enter a Relationship.
Your Physical Parents,
Father, mother, Guardians and Mentors fall in this category.
How a girl can be in a relationship and she hasn’t told her Mother baffles me.
Your Spiritual mentor,
Pastors, Counselors fall in this category. Pastors aren’t scare crows, Relationship is not as sin, In a Relationship? Tell Us. Let’s pray along with you and counsel you. Their guidance can save you a lot of stress
Your Family
Yes. Your sisters and brothers should know. You’ll need their counsel, watchful eyes.
Your Friends.
I don’t mean your Facebook friends oh, I mean your real friends.. They should be in the know. Let them help you be watching and praying.
When a serious minded person comes asking for your hand in a Relationship that would lead to Marriage, or accepts a Relationship proposal from you, they are usually eager to tell those that matter to them about it and also want you to do the same.
So when someone is now telling you not to tell Anyone that you both are together, then it calls for concern.
Here are 4 Reasons why People want their Relationships to be secret.;
One or Both of You Are Not Yet Sure Of What They Want And When They Want It
Most Relationships that are operated like COVERT Missions, where lovers will be meeting at secret locations and having secret rendezvous like undercover cops abi detectives from NDLEA, some of such Relationships are run by People who are still trying to figure out
What they want to do with their lives
If this boy or girl is the person for them.
But this ought Not to be so.
How do you go into a Relationship with someone you are not very sure is the one for you? You don’t need to have 10 exes before you find the one. Stop doing sampling, trail and error.
Before you go into any Relationship. I recommend you should start with Friendship,
Use the friendship stage to Investigate (genotype, family background, compatibility) and Pray and do all the needed observing before starting a Relationship.
If you observe the above order, by the time you are sure and ready for a Relationship, one thing is sure, you won’t be doing SSR (Secret Service Relationship)
You do not need to start a Relationship and be hiding it like contraband goods.Be hiding relationship like it’s cocaine
Somebody would ask you if you’re in a Relationship, and you will say it is complicated.
My dear you are confused.
If you have to hide a Relationship, chances are you should not even be in it.
You Or Them Is Doing Something Evil
John 3:20 “For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved.”
“Anybody doing something wrong will always want to avoid the Authorities”. Like Adam when he ate the forbidden fruit.
He or she will ask you to keep it secret/
When you are the side chic, he will tell you not to tell anyone about the both of you,
chances are, your roommate or sister may even be the main chic
When she is only keeping you so she can get monthly subscription money, or money for Brazilian Hair
When they are already Engaged or Married but just want to catch Fun with you.
They won’t want you to tell your Pastor, or your parents because they know that those people will investigate, things will get serious almost immediately, and their GAME is more likely to be discovered and they would lose out. And they don’t want this.
When The Relationship Is Illegal
When either you or they have information that the other isn’t aware of that they know makes the relationship an illegal one, that would make them to be prosecuted or forced to give up the Relationship and they don’t want that.
When the both of you know what you are doing is illegal, for instance dating your Sister’s husband or dating your Landlords underage daughter.
Pastor dating a Member
Teacher dating his JSS3 student
When one of you or the both of you are underaged. Seriously? You are 14 and in a Relationship, that relationship needs canceling, not counseling.
No wonder the relationship Is kept a secret.
No wonder they don’t want you to tell anyone, or you don’t want to tell your parents or pastor
Sometimes when People want their Relationships to remain a secret, it’s because deep down in them;
THEY know they are not yet qualified to be in one yet they badly want to be in one
OR
THEY know that a Relationship with that particular Person they are with is something that is morally and Scripturally forbidden.
They Are Not Interested In Anything Serious With You
How does a young Man tell a Woman that he wants to date her, but then it should be nothing too serious for now? So she should not tell anybody?
a “RELATIONSHIP” And “NOT TOO SERIOUS” should never be in the same sentence.
A relationship is a Serious issue.
Jesus died because of a Relationship. I’m Saved today because of that relationship
We are talking about a Human Being, My Life, how more serious can it get? If you get mixed up with a wrong person, your life and future can get messed up faster than you can say Jack.
Many Relationships have resulted in People losing their Lives, so what’s Unserious about a Relationship?
When next someone tells you let’s keep it a secret, don’t be quick to think it’s because of enemies of progress
Ask them two questions
By John Mining
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