Am Married to Man who Does Not Want Development, What Should I do – Benjamin Zulu Advises
‘Hi am married to this man for 3 years. I’m turning 25 and he is 30. He is that kind of a person if I tell him we need to buy such and such stuff he says I’m pressuring him. I come with some money and ask him to add me and he says I’m stressing him. I request him we take a loan to develop something he says he hates debts.
I feel we are not making any progress. The mattress I found him laying on is still the one we are sleeping on and it’s torn but when I tell him he says he is satisfied with it as long as we’re not sleeping on the floor.
I have tried to convince him on how we can develop but he can’t listen to me. I feel like divorcing him. Kindly advice on how to deal with such a man please.’
You see you’re doing too much wishful thinking my friend. You’re trying to change a man? Instead of talking about divorcing him you should ask why you married him in the first place. These are the things you learn about men from outside. How did you end up with a man who cannot cooperate on anything?
You married when you were blind so what else did you expect? Of course you knew you were rushing when you married at 22 or was it 21. Nearly all girls who got married before they were 25 admit that they knew or at least they suspected they were doing the wrong thing at the wrong time only that they underestimated the consequences. They were too eager to experience the thrill of love.
This is not a marriage but a practical joke and if you’ve decided to play comedy with your life you’ll have to find an interested audience because personally I’m not a fan of this kind of real life humor. A guy who won’t upgrade a torn mattress and you’ve already married him! Ha! The wonders of pre25 nonsense continued.
(©️ Benjamin Zulu Ke)
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