Do Not Shout About Your Boundaries- Benjamin Zulu

Do not shout about your boundaries. Rather, show them. Demonstrate to people what you don’t tolerate by firm action, and you’ll leave no doubt as to who you are and what you’re about.

Nobody can argue with a decisive action. The reason people don’t respect your standards is because you only shout or nag about them. Instead of saying, ‘You can’t talk to me like that,’ every time someone talks down at you, you simply execute the consequences.

You disengage and walk away. You withdraw your participation in whatever you were doing together. You pull out of all association until they show remorse and apologise. If they don’t, you never go back to that place with them.

It is a simple procedure, but one that needs you to be ready to lose anyone who can’t treat you with the honour and dignity you deserve. It is your fear of being alone that makes you lower your guard every now and then.

Once more: face what you fear, and after that, you’re free. Imagine your life if this person walked away, and once you mentally prepare for it, you’ll no longer be scared of it.