Don’t Marry a Husband who has Sired More Than One Child With Different Women
If a man has sired a second child with a different woman and he was never married to either of them, you can date him and become the third baby mama. If you wish. Of course he’s swearing you’re the one he wants to marry, the other ones were dramatic, and so on. The others were told the same things and you can check with them.
Remember also that in all likelihood by the time a man is having babies with two women, he has slept with twenty.
If the first one was a mistake it would have been immediately followed by a lifestyle change. He would have learnt the risks of premarital sex and stopped it altogether. But the fact that he still went as far as repeating the same things with a different one tells you he learnt nothing. It wasn’t a mistake but his lifestyle.
And mark you he may be a very kind hearted guy. He doesn’t have to be a bad or mean guy. He can be kind and supportive, and no wonder he has no shortage of women. He just lacks discipline and self control, and unfortunately those are the required traits of a husband.
Not all handsome and friendly men will ever be husbands, and marrying them is an exercise in futility. Their looks and their attraction towards you is a matter of biology and nature. But to marry and be faithful to one woman takes character and a made up mind, very rare things.
Only a man who has beaten his flesh to submission can ever be a husband, and many will never do that. Even when they’re good-natured people. Their good nature only attracts more temptations and over time they’ll heap problems over problems.
Of course we’re not suggesting that a person cannot change after getting two, or ten, children out there. They can see the light, turn their life over to the Lord, et cetera. But remember the litmus test for a genuinely changed life? A track record of a different lifestyle in the past 18 months minimum, and possessing different values and principles from the ones that governed their previous life. These same parameters are applied in addiction treatment.
In short, they should have migrated socially to a different energy. They now hang around different people and places. There must be a shift from Saul to Paul, the kind of change that other people talk about.
Anyone can claim to have ‘learnt their lesson and changed their ways,’ and that may be just a line they use on new victims. Let change speak for itself. If it’s real, it will be evident.
(©️ Benjamin Zulu Global)
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