How to coparent peacefully with difficult and narcissistic people- Benjamin Zulu

How to coparent peacefully with difficult and narcissistic people? Unfortunately there’s no known universal method to do that. The only sure proof way to deal with toxic human beings is to avoid getting tied up with them.

Exercise caution and self control with all romantic relationships and stop sleeping with people anyhow. Don’t sign up before you learn them enough and always be prepared to let go if circumstances don’t allow you a clear view of that person’s life. Say it’s a long distance kind of interactions or the person has a very short time to get married such that you’re denied the opportunity to do due diligence. You’d never purchase a prime property under such circumstances so why would you make such a prime life decisions under the same circumstances?

So if you find yourself having to coparent with a deranged and unstable human being, brace for war. And a nasty war at that. Don’t waste time with wishful thinking and looking for universal methods of handling those people because none exists. And this is because those people are like viruses: they come in too many variants and they mutate constantly and so there’s no way to pin a universal cure for them except symptom management.

The best you can do is to acquire or procure situation specific wisdom and strategies that will work with that particular person. Peace is possible, but it will only come after you’ve fought or handled the situation courageously and intelligently. Otherwise the ensuing tussle will swallow you up. It’s too late to quit once children are involved, so you just have to strategize.

Remember, with difficult people one child is easier to handle than two. And zero children is definitely better. The moment you sense trouble or like you blundered in choosing this person, cut your losses and stop getting children.