Is it Money or Love – Benjamin Zulu
There is a guy who conducted a social experiment by holding a chart in the streets written ‘Money or Love?’ Then under the statement he had stuck some dollars on the one side and roses on the other for people to choose. Of course when you’re in a pressing need of pocket change and someone is offering you some free cash you may not think much about it. So while people’s choices in that experiment may have been influenced more by their situations rather than their values, a follow up question he was asking was very revealing.
He was asking them why they chose that way and many would say ‘money is everything. I can’t eat flowers.’ Others would say ‘Love is the essence of life. Money should only facilitate love, not the other way.’
The numbers were nearly divided in the middle between those who chose money and those who chose flowers. Some said they were grieving the loss of their loved ones and they valued love more. Others said they had enough money of their own and what they valued now was love and connectedness.
People’s characters were revealed in that simple experiment in a startling fashion. Greed and lack of gratitude as some would grab all the money and hurry away without a word to the giver, contentment and grace as some would contemplate before choosing and pat the giver on his shoulder with a smile, influence of peers as those in company of their friends almost always chose money, on and on.
Where I’m I going with this? Make sure you ascertain what your partner values more between love and money before you marry them. You may not set up and experiment like this but life is full of opportunities for such traits to come out.
A friend told me that they recently lost a beloved farmer and businessman who would supply an entire village with groceries and vegetables at very affordable rates because he used to grow them himself. He was a very driven young man but then he married a woman who valued money more than love. She eventually had him assassinated and she took over his estate. And since she didn’t have his values and connection to the people, the business went down.
This is not a small matter. One day you will have a lot of money and if your partner loves it more than they love you, you could be in danger.
For the love of money [that is, the greedy desire for it and the willingness to gain it unethically] is a root of all sorts of evil…(1 Timothy 6:10 Amplified Bible)
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