How Heartening is it to Move Away From Your Loved One?
It hurts when you have to walk away from a person you care about but one who cannot meet your needs. It requires utmost bravery because we always associate choosing ourselves and walking away when the person is bad or abusive.
But sometimes the person is not bad,and in some ways things may have worked between you. You’ve helped each other grow, for instance. Or you moved them from a bad place they used to be stuck and they’re grateful for it.
But overall, their internal conflicts and their imbalances with life makes it impossible for them to show up for this relationship as they should. And you know that in order to live your life to the fullest you can’t settle for this. Even if it seems ‘good enough’ in the eyes of everyone.
You will struggle with feelings of guilt and wondering if you’re ‘leaving them in times of need’ or being selfish. Yes, self love feels like a burden before it feels like freedom. You’re choosing yourself and you’re exercising higher love for the person by releasing them from pressure and guilt of not being enough for you. You’re allowing them to go find their kind, or to be with themselves long enough to overcome their imbalances and toxic traits.
Perhaps their journey now is not supposed to be about finding someone else but about finding themselves.
Courtesy of Benjamin Zulu
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