Of course they miss you. You were never the problem-Benjamin Zulu
Of course they miss you. You were never the problem. The problem was their tendency to escape instead of engaging. They fled the truth rather than facing it.
And the truth was that they were both attracted to and intimidated by you. On the one hand they wanted you all to themselves, but on the other hand they felt like they weren’t enough for you. And that you’d eventually find someone who gave you what you deserved and discard them. This is why their behaviour swung from adoring you to abhorring you: you had everything they wanted, but you also reminded them of everything that was wrong with them. They were possessive of you for their own benefits, but also insecure about their insufficiency for you.
But because they couldn’t admit their lack of seriousness in growing and improving, or even their dependency and pretense of love in order to ride on you, they manufactured offenses against you. You flirt with other people; you’re not cooperative; you look down on them; you prefer your family over them, on and on. All this was a facade to get away without accountability and make you look like the bad one.
Solution? Stop getting yoked with people who can’t match up to your standards. They’ll just stress you out and use you, and still leave with an insult. Accept your league and undertake the hard work of searching among your equals. Stop looking for shortcuts by dating dependants and trying to prop them up. Such projects always end badly.
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