Should Couples Stay For Over six Months Before Getting Married -Benjamin Zulu
Someone showed me a quote that was encouraging people to ‘stay together at least for six months before they get married to test whether they’re compatible as a couple.’ And I said that just like all deceptions of life, this advice picks only one advantage and ignores all the disadvantages and risks. If you stay in the same house you’ll get entangled sexually and emotionally. A child may result even, and socially will people see you as an item. Even if you keep it low key your friends will get to know, and your friends constitute your social world.
Also, breakups are seldom easy or smooth getting out of that arrangement will be nasty and the aftermath will linger on for long.
And that is if both people were healthy. If you land into the hands of a narcissist with this naive and careless approach to dating you’ll be buried alive my friend. Six months is even too long for them to get a hold of your life. The first time you get intimate your goose is cooked. Taking her or him out of your life will be a fight to the death and you will spend many years terrified after that.
Also, with this slow method how many people will you try out? And who will ever respect you seeing as you’re this cheap to lay? How many people will you allow a full view of your life?
In sum, forget these over simplified advises that look only for shortcuts. The right way is to arm yourself with knowledge about character analysis and discernment of energies and then to study people at the friendship level without any strings attached. Date with dignity and keep your honor intact. This way you can peruse through as many people as necessary until you find the best match.
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