Stop Being Intimate With a Person Who Just Wants to Have you For Fun

If you keep getting intimate with a person when they have made it clear ‘its all for fun,’ and ‘they’re not looking for anything serious right now,’ eventually you’ll fall in love with them or get attached and obsessed and it will be the worst kind of pain. It’s a lose-lose game.

You’re training your mind to dissociate sex from feelings and love and if you succeed in so doing, sex will have permanently lost meaning to you. It’s no longer intimacy but a physical activity. Something in your has numbed. The sacredness and appreciation of the sublime essence of life.

Alternatively, your emotions get involved by falling for a moving target and you feel stupid because you knew they’re not available. Either you’ll try to beg them to agree for a serious relationship – and the begging will make you feel vulnerable and miserable, or you’ll be trying to kill the feelings for many days.

Once more, there’s nothing casual about sex. The designer never intended it so. Many have tried to treat as sport what God meant to be sacred and in the end they just lost their souls.

Agree with God and thereby find peace. (Job 22:21)

By Benjamin Zulu