She Built Her Parents a House Without my Knowledge, I Feel Cheated
‘I met my wife 7 years ago when she had broken up with her ex husband. She said that the man was cheating on her and when i tried digging deeper, i realized also this woman was extravagant.
Now we date for 2 year she was good and i met her parents a tradition ceremony was done but before that i came to find out that she had built a house for her parents without informing me though she used her own money.
During all that period I was providing her each and everything she would ask for, including her trasport fee too & from, lunch, say everything
Also I was paying school fees for her child she had with her x.
So one time she tells me how she wanted to tell me something and i promise that i won’t get angry boom , that she had completed building for her parents. And i said to her it’s good to done it, but i felt betrayed for some i trusted doing that without informing me, she admitted that even her mother asked wether i was aware about the construction and she said yes.
Since then i never trusted her. One time i checked her phone and she was trying to relocate to Europe however things did work out and again i got disappointed and i realized she’s not ready to settle. Remember is still provide everything to her and the family. I Carter for everything and she saves her money which i never question how she uses it.
I feel frustrated and i find it some hard to breakup with her. Her Mum likes me so much to have been able to take care of her child like my real child. I also don’t want to hurt the old woman. But me i feel more hurt and i feel i can nologer have her as my future wife’
You’re supposed to take double caution when ‘taking over’ someone who is coming from another marriage. Because they can never tell you the truth even if they’re the ones who were on the wrong. They’ll tell you a version that makes them look innocent. Women in particular have a special ability to play innocent and even helpless and so excite your masculine instinct to help. Only an inexperienced seductress uses sexual appeal to win a man. Those who are really cunning and experienced always appeal to a more primal and deeper instincts of men: the urge to help a stranded, good looking woman. So instead of standing by the road and looking sexy, which may only get glances from men driving by, she instead comes with her own car and acts stranded. And then those men will pull over to help and more readily walk into her trap. That’s how you got trapped brother.
Secondly, it’s total dishonesty and disrespect for a person to be carrying out financial projects at their home or elsewhere without your knowledge, especially when they’re acting broke and you’re having to finance them for everything. You already know she’s not with you to stay and all she wanted was to use you until she gets the visa or a door for another life.
Once more, not everyone we ‘feel for’ needs us to get involved with them. Many are passers-by, not residents in your lives.
(©️ Benjamin Zulu Ke)
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