Wrong Ways to Convince a Damsel
Money
As a young man, throwing huge money and gifts around a lady just to bamboozle her into accepting you is a wrong move.
You don’t BUY love.
The primary factor that convinces a lady of personality to marry a man is not his money, even if she’s broke, she’s not selling herself.
If a lady turns down your proposal, and then after you buy her a phone or an expensive gift, she now says yes to you, my brother, Congratulations, you just bought yourself a girlfriend.
When that money goes tomorrow, such a woman won’t stay with you or when a man with more money comes, you will be included in her past historical boyfriends list immediately.*
Influence/Power
Another thing you should not use to make a lady accept your proposal is influence or power.
As a single pastor for instance, you don’t use your anointing to propose to a female member, you have to be careful enough to propose as a man, not as a man of God, to propose as her SUITOR, not as her Mentor.
Before you ask a lady out or propose, if you are a person of influence over her, do well to strip yourself of that “power” before you ask her out.
How? Start with friendship, Mentorship is not Friendship. Actually try to win her heart first, before you propose or ask her out. Don’t use subtle threats or fear.*
Manipulation
You see that thing men do, send a lady to the university and make her promise to accept to date/marry them, that’s manipulation.
A lady is hungry and in need of help, you’re in a position to help, but ask for relationship/marriage from her, that’s a BUSINESS PROPOSAL, Not a Marriage Proposal.
Yes, she should turn it down if she knows she won’t/can’t fulfill her end of the bargain, but that’s manipulation at work right there.
A Lady is in need of school fees or house rent, you gave her hundred thousand naira, the next day you now ask her to date you in return.. No na, is not like that. She’s under pressure, she’s under duress, it’s almost an issue of taking advantage.
If she’s in need, and you can help, Help.. If you won’t, let get go. Keep your proposal for someone that will date/marry you not because you helped them but because they actually want/chose to.
A lady should accept you because She Loves You, because she has a Conviction to do so, and because she Chose To*. You don’t Force it when it’s not False.
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