But Why are Decent Men Going After Indecent Women?-Benjamin Zulu

‘I am 35 yrs old and started serious dating last year but long distance. I love this woman so much,she is 33yrs old single mother of one 10yrs old boy.for the last 10 year I have never dated.so I met this lady through Facebook on 2017 now am deeply in love even some of her siblings knows me same case to mine knows her. My problem is here now, her past is not that good, dating married men, telling me that were friends with benefits because I was not there that time. She always tells me the time I came to her she changed. give me advice what can I do,because when I feel to surrender this relationship it difficult to me because I love her so much and I know she loves me.’

This woman is on a rampage and her history is full of debris and damage from her disorderly life. And you’re trying to ‘wife’ her? She’s not even trying to become a wife or to build a family, settle into making a home, no. That’s not her priorities and she tells you that to your face. Go get a woman who has both the character and preparedness to be a wife.

Many of these put-together men wamezubaa. (Timid, slow in thinking) A guy takes his time growing himself and building a financial base but when he finally comes out to get the woman with whom to build a life he settles on the worst of characters.

Generally men, not every woman who got a child while single has changed ever since. For some getting a child was not a mistake but a fruit. That’s how she was living, that’s how she has chosen to live.

Always check if after getting a child there was a turn around. Whether she came to herself and decided to live differently with sexual discipline this time.

But what addicts these upward looking men to these clearly unstable women? Two things. First, he takes it a challenge to ‘tame’ her and make her settle. Which is the same as taming a wild cat. Secondly, many of these men are used to ‘kuonja-onja’ or ‘smashing’ any woman who ‘gave them.’ These kind of women are pretty ‘generous’ and if she cathes him at a dry spell of sorts, he quickly gets emotionally attached.

To put it another way, he’s looking for a wife, the one person who will make or break him but instead of zooming in on her character he jumps straight to her cookie! Irredeemably gullible!