Don’t Move From Your parent’s Care Straight Into a Partner’s Hands
For the sake of your own survival in this world do not move directly from your parent’s care straight into a partner’s hands. You will transfer the same energy of submission and unquestioned obedience into a situation whose dynamics are extremely different.
Rather, allow for time to live alone and develop your voice. Get to figure out the life you want and the principles that will govern your life. You cannot be with a lover at this time even if you’re not married, or they will influence your worldview and the standards you set.
If you skip this phase you risk spending your life without a voice, and being carried away by the agenda of everyone else. You will feel soul-less and lost in the shadow of your roles as a parent and as a worker. But you will be more of a spectator in the drama of your own life. People will program you to dance their tune without questioning.
Being alone is uncomfortable, but it’s life saving. Incubations require separation and aloneness. And if you avoid the solitary period of incubation then you’ll never be hatched. You will spend your days unconscious, passing your days like a dream.
Of course we know many students in colleges are busy hooking up, but we also know a group of pigs that rushed together into water and drowned. Just because something is popular it doesn’t mean its safe.
And what if you’re realizing now that you skipped this stage? Examine your life and see if you’re the one running your agenda or you’re merely receiving instructions and drifting from mistake to mistake. If so, start self search immediately through seeking professional help and self education.
Courtesy Benjamin Zulu- Life Coach
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