Wastage of One’s youthful Years Makes me Sad- Benjamin Zulu
So recently I had a rather bizarre encounter where a lady told me she’s 27 and she’s been in this relationship for 10 years and she wanted some advice on a myriad of issues and wrangles they have been having with her boyfriend who is one year older. Of course such sick stories of utter wastage of one’s youthful years make me so sad and angry I can’t even discuss it.
While I was struggling to calm myself down and somehow engage with the total sickness of it all it suddenly dawned on me the exact elements that I can’t stand in such premature and prolonged relationships. It’s the way the person is DREAMLESS, INDECISIVE, UNTHOUGHTFUL, and IGNORANT of the seasons of their life. It makes me feel like I’m talking to a person who switched off their common sense may years ago and they’ve just been riding on emotional waves. If a person cannot think past their nose and plan what they want for their future and tame their feelings long enough to go after it, I think such a person has a SEVERE THINKING DISABILITY. How else would you sacrifice a decade of the most determinant years of your life running after squirrels of emotional entanglements?
She admitted that she had underperformed in her secondary school exams because of the relationship and missed the university entry points and thus ending up in a college instead. Also that she had to forego every direction her parents suggested that her lover didn’t like, like sending her to Uganda to study for a degree starting with A levels. She wanted to be near her boyfriend so they agreed to reject the suggestion.
There are many other infuriating elements to the story that I can’t write without suffering a dizzying headache like getting involved in cat fights with other girls because of jealousy, ending up locked in a police cell when they were arrested in a drunked brawl.
But suffice it to say that emotional decisions are a total disaster especially at the beginning of your life. They have a stinging long term effect or opportunities missed for good and potentials that might never get developed again.
Plead with every young person in your care to master whatever little patience they can to withhold relationships until they have developed themselves. To live to their fullest potential and to have a happy love life they must set their minds on the right things and respect process.
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