What a 30 Years Old Lady Should DO
When you hit 30 as a woman something changes both socially and psychologically. Socially you’re no longer referred to as a ‘young lady.’ You’re a full stature woman now. Psychologically, you enter the peak of your powers.
Your mindset and your energy ascends to a place where you can attempt anything you ever dreamt of.
You can walk up to any office, including the President’s office and you won’t thought to be crazy even if you’re trying to sell them some mundane thing like kitchen soap. Your confidence and your physical presentation is impressive at this point and it commands the attention of just anyone.
A warning about the notions society has been pushing to women about hitting 30: ‘You’re getting old, do something! Get married, get a child.’ All these are fearful attempts to break you down to a version they can control and understand, and which doesn’t threaten them. When you don’t seem to do what people expected when they expected it, they feel disturbed. You shall ignore their discomfort and stay singular in your mind about your unique path of life.
So what shall you change when you hit 30? You shall do what you would do naturally when you join the highway from the meanders and access roads that you had used to leave your home. Metaphorically speaking, your life is like a journey from your parents’ home and life to your own home and life. Your earlier years were meanders and pathways you used to navigate out of the village. Hitting 30 is like joining the highway.
So what do you do? You accelerate. You minimise distractions. You take a lane and stick to it. You set your timers. Even the navigator stops talking too much because you’re not making too many turns now. It simply says ‘continue straight for 30 kilometers.’
So, terminate all nonsense. You’ve left muddy roads and skidding is not allowed here. It’s too risky to swerve around now. Stop slipping back to former lovers and entanglements. There’s something disturbing to see a 33 year old lady still doing ‘on again off again’ with someone they dragged from their 20’s. She looks oddly stuck and lost. At this age you should know what you want and to be decisive, even going by experience alone. You’ve seen enough by this point to know what’s a waste of time.
Clarify your path and entertain only relationships that align with who you are. If you’re still searching make it brief and to the point. Find a way to cut off all the lingering baggage you had gathered while you were doing guesswork at life and love in your 20’s.
No longer be afraid of hurting people by affirming your limits and boundaries. Do not crave connections that violate your standards.
Understand: the stretch you cover between now and about 55 or 60 will be your legacy on earth. Every year counts now, and it’s a very brief ride. Force yourself to catch a sense of urgency. This age is the crux of your existence. If you waste it you’ll be wasting yourself eternally.
What about men? Most men experience this mandatory transformation at around 35.
The point is not to get impatient or desperate, but rather awakened and more intense about everything you do, being aware that the time for time consuming experiments is over.
(©️ Benjamin Zulu Global)
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