Women are so Gullible-Benjamin Zulu

So many women are so gullible. The moment a man proposes they’re ‘convinced he’s serious’ and they give their everything. You mean in all your growing up you never met all those ladies who were left with babies after the engagement? Or those who are past year ten after the engagement and they’re still waiting for things to move forward?

Engagement is easy and a man who wants you badly enough- although he doesn’t want the confinement of marriage- will easily go that far.

Some of you have watched too many movies and you glamourise proposal out of all proportion.

This is the rule and any time you break it you’ll just be hurting yourself: marriage is a very different affair in a man’s mind. It’s the ultimate sacrifice and commitment. And until he marries you in a marriage CEREMONY, all these other things you ladies worship mean nothing. He can do public engagement or ruracio/lobola but in his mind he’s still free. He’ll even be saying it very casually to his friends or other girls he wants to get close to. ‘I’m not married.’

In short, control your feelings. There are people who will engage you as a formality just so they can access all of you and possess you without giving of themselves. Others will change how they see you the moment you unpack. And they develop cold feet and their energy sags.

The only solution is to never drop your standards even an inch lower. And you’ll be surprised how it will simplify your life by eliminating time wastage and users.

To answer that same stupid objection: ‘but can’t he still quit after marrying you formally?’ Of course he can. Marriage itself is a risk because people can change mind anytime. There’s no 100% proof. But this doesn’t remove the critical importance of process and respecting sequences of life. Just like purchasing a property, when you follow the due process you cut off most cons because they fear accountability. When you do things right until the end, 90% of liars will fall off because they’re also too impatient to wait.

After all, if someone changes on you after doing everything right you’ll have moral courage to pick up without guilt because you practised due diligence on your end.