You will not thrive as a human being if the person you’re with criticises your successes- Benjamin Zulu
You will not thrive as a human being if the person you’re with criticises your successes, picks apart your dressing or bodyshames you, isolates you from friends and social support and generally wants to keep you dependent on them.
Personal freedom and social connectedness are the vital pillars that make you bloom. You may think you’re sacrificing for love when you cooperate with a partner who is taking these things away when in fact you’re letting them tightern a noose around your neck.
You cannot sit and watch when someone is texting or calling your contacts. They’re literally burning your social investments as you watch. You will only recognise the loss when it’s too late.
You cannot stop talking to your friends or attending those social meetings and merry-go-rounds that kept you going just because your new date is too insecure about them. Their insecurities are theirs to deal with, not yours to accommodate.
You cannot resign from your job just because your partner thinks you’re sleeping with everyone there.
Before you commit to a relationship you must commit to your life itself. To safeguard your peace and your happiness jealousy even it means remaining alone because of it.
If you fear being alone or you’re too unsettled when not in a relationship you recognise that as a symptom of an emotional wound itself, and you seek treatment for it instead of indulging in a relationship just to soothe it.
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