You need the ability to turn down a good person because you're not in a good place for a relationship yourself and you know it

Perhaps you’re hurting from some things that happened in the past and you’re taking your time to heal or at this season in your life you’re working on another area of self development away from relationships.

The mistake many people make is to fear losing the person and so they get into a relationship or some kind of entanglement hoping to finish up what they were doing and start dating this person. This is an emotional decision based off of fear rather than patience and faith in the process. What ends up happening is that you rush or gloss over your healing or development in order to be with this person. Such a relationship can never be happy because subconsciously you expect a compensation for what you forfeited to be in it.

You stopped working on your business to be with this person so they better keep your financial needs met. You suspended your studies to marry them how dare they not give you enough monthly upkeep. You passed the chance to fly overseas because of them how can they ask you to live in such a cheap house. You disagreed with and differed with everyone who was against the relationship how can they not talk to you every time you need them.

On and on. You must never skip a step or a stage to be with a person. It unbalances the dynamics in the relationship by introducing unhealthy expectations and ultimately ruins it. Stay on the course you planned when you were in your right mind. This temporary insanity created by the emotional flare will pass.