If you have to coparent with a narcissist, brace for war- Benjamin Zulu
If you have to coparent with a narcissist, brace for war. And a nasty war at that, with the potential to damage you and the children psychologically.
Narcissists don’t care about the children or anyone for that matter, all they want to do is to use every form of contact to punish you. Punish you for what? For being courageous enough to get away from them, and perhaps for exposing their diabolical nature to the world.
But how did you get caught up in a nasty war like this? What did you do to deserve it? Well, nothing except being a nice person and not being watchful enough to avoid getting a child with a devil incarnate.
Narcissists vary in personal attributes and therefore coparenting with them varies with each case. The only thing they share is hostility and cold heartedness.
Your options, therefore, vary from total detachment to parent alone or leaving them to do the parenting, or making a coparenting arrangement which they may keep disrupting once they realize they’re not getting to you enough or that you’re getting happy again. But once they disrupt you must put your foot down and make them to either cooperate or lose the access. About poisoning the children’s minds there’s little you can do except hoping that the kids will be wise enough not to believe everything they’re told.
Perhaps the worst pain is to watch them destroy the children with money and access to drugs and addictive gadgest just to punish you. But at the end you must remember this is war and every war has casualties. Because by law the narcissist has the rights of a parent there’s little you can do about this part as well, but the most important thing is to keep yourself sane and safe so that the children have at least one parent they can always turn to.
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